Ahmed Shaami
A little bit of fear is normal as it protects you instinctively from harm. It helps you to recognize when you are about to do something dangerous and enables you to make a safer choice. But sometimes you develop a fear for doing things which are not actually dangerous such as public speaking, fear of flying, fear of escalators etc.
Unfortunately, some fears can make you stay away from things that can actually improve your life, self-esteem, and self-worth. Following are the few practical ways that can help you overcome your fears.
Become aware:
The best way to deal with your fears is to become aware of what they actually are. For example, if you are afraid of flying then you must read more about the statistics on the negative outcomes of flying. You should know that more deaths happen in road accidents as compared to the airplane and your chances of dying on a plane are 1 in 7 million. And when it comes to overcoming other kinds of fears, you must understand the worst possible outcome. Once you are aware what worse could happen, your fears will start to feel less daunting.
Push slowly:
When you have to overcome your fears, it would be wrong if you want to change everything at once. It is always better to take smaller steps toward what you want to achieve. When you decide to get better at your fears, take one small step at a time and push slowly.
Confront your fears verbally:
You have to talk to your fears as if you are talking to a person. This involves you asking them why you are afraid of them. Don’t just keep asking questions, allow yourself to give the best possible answers as if your fears are replying to you. Once you will learn from yourself, you will come out of the phobia and things won’t seem as frightening as ever.
Talk to a good friend:
When you are afraid of something it is always good to share it with your support system. Do remember to share your fears with people only whom you actually trust because otherwise, the sharing of fears can go against you. Once you hear yourself talk about your fears, you will feel better and your friend or family will provide you with better solutions than you can think of.
Focus on your energies:
The more you think about your fears, the more you feed them and they become strong. Therefore, focus all your energies on your dreams and goals and not on the things that seem frightening to you. Once you see yourself working and getting closer to your goals, you will gain confidence and your fears will shrink in the background.
Do not deny:
The best way to overcome your fears is to first accept them as it will take you one step closer to conquering them. If you constantly deny your fears, you will never be able to get out of them and there will be no one to help you.
Overcoming your fears is really a wonderful thing. You reach a higher level of fulfillment ad it brings your healthy self-image in front of yourself and everyone else.
