Ahmed Shaami
Some of the traumatic childhood experiences such as neglect, emotional and physical abuse, or even prolonged separation from parents can result into low self-esteem and confidence. In later life, confidence can be undermined by ill-health, loss of job, getting divorced or a general sense of lack of control. Lack of confidence can make such people see the world in a different way. The world to them becomes a hostile place and they consider themselves as victims. As a result, they fail to express themselves and miss out all the opportunities that can take them forward in life. Moreover, failures and setbacks tend to bury them down into a downward spiral making them completely useless even for themselves.
If you feel that you are one of such people who have a low level of confidence then there are certain ways to break out of that downward spiral. Following are few to begin with:
Get away from negativity:
In order to begin with, you have to remind yourself that no matter what the problems are you have so many gifts. You are unique and there is no one else in the world like you. You have to consider yourself valuable and a miracle of consciousness. Identify all the negative thoughts that creep into your mind and challenge them.
Pay attention to your appearance:
When it comes to confidence, your appearance plays an important role. Your posture, smile, eye-contact, and speech are the elements that help you appear confident. Research has proved that a firm eye-contact, pulled back shoulders, smile, and a nice dress can add a bonus to your appearance. Always appear in public with clean clothes and style your hair for a better look.
Be prepared:
Sometimes the confidence gets shattered when you experience uncertain events such as loss of a job. But you need to be prepared for uncertain thing and for that you must learn everything there is in your field. When you are already prepared with an adequate amount of knowledge, your confidence level will increase.
Make a list of your accomplishments:
There are times when nothing seems to work better and life’s challenges start to bring down the confidence level. You need to make a list and write all the things you have accomplished in your life. Praise yourself for the strategies you made that helped you to tackle the problems. Appreciate yourself for finding solutions and remind yourself what an amazing person you really are. This is the list that will help you stay inspired of yourself all the time.
Never give up:
Failures are a part of life; all you have to do is never to give up. Give yourself the positive affirmation that no matter what happens you will keep making effort for achieving your goals. Remind yourself that there is a solution to every problem. You just need to find the right strategy to succeed through adversity.
